"How, then, am I not opposed to gay marriage? On the same basis that I'm not opposed to unicorns, pixies, or zombies. They do not exist."
They do not exist.
Thus, spake Hate.
To deny someone's very existence... the very existence of a loving married couple, as if they were nothing... This is the speech of the Enemy. This is the speech of Hate. This is the speech of the Oppressor.
It's one thing to say, “I really hate what you are doing there... that thing that YOU THINK is good, but is really (in my opinion) bad... I hate that...”
That would be arrogant and presumptuous, perhaps, especially if speaking about something as beautiful as marriage... as wonderful as two people committing together in love to form a new family. But you can understand that as at least possibly coming from a place of good intentions (whether paving the way to hell or not).
But “You do not exist.”
Your marriage does not exist.
Your family, your children, they do not exist. They are nothing but evil and a casting aside of all that is holy...
That is a whole other level of ugly, of danger, of threat, of oppression.
People need to embrace a bit of humility before the speak, before they write. If nothing else, consider how evil you present yourself when you announce publicly, “That person's marriage does not exist.”
This is the problem with the human tradition of conservative evangelicalism/fundamentalism today. They have embraced evil and arrogant ideas and a level of Pharisaism that is startling in its utter wrong-ness and danger.
And they have called this evil, “good...” and are amazed when people reject their views as at best, a pathetic, senile old irrelevancy and, at worst, a dangerous threat.
For my dear married friends, gay and straight and otherwise, you DO exist. These people who'd say otherwise are sad relics of an oppressive past and they are on their way out, dying out from a lack of reason and compassion. Believe it.