Friday, February 5, 2010
Gays in the Military
Most guys would be uncomfortable living openly with males who might be producing this sexual tension. So, where would we HOUSE gays in the military??
What do we do if "the gays" are openly admitted in the military? Deal with it. Be adult. Expect professionalism.
As we all know, gay folk are already in the military. Always have been.
Those who think "most guys" would be uncomfortable living with gay guys may be projecting a bit too much of their own worries. Gay folk already are in the military, does that make them uncomfortable?
Maybe it does for some folk, but if so, they just need to move on, get over it. Be adult. Be professional.
If I were in a room of 20 guys and one of them was gay, the thing is, I'm not interested in him, not being gay myself. So, there's not really a likelihood of an affair developing or it being a problem for me. Right?
If the guy is not a sexual deviant, then there's not a chance of him wanting to force himself upon me. Agreed? (And if he is sexually deviant and inclined to force himself on others, then it's his problem, straight or gay.)
So, from my point of view, I'm not uncomfortable being in a barracks-style room with a gay guy. I don't know of any studies that indicate that "most guys" would be uncomfortable with this situation. I sort of doubt that, given that it's been the reality for a long time. But even if that's the case, that seems to be their problem, not the gay soldier's problem.
Now, the greatest problem that I can think of is for the gay guy (or lesbian gal). And in that case, perhaps it's a legitimate question to ask: Are they the sort who would be unduly distracted and "turned on" by the notion of sleeping around a bunch of guys/gals who aren't attracted to them?
The word I hear is, no, they would not be.
Think of it this way: If you were tending to a bunch of young children, changing the diapers of both boys and girls, is that a problem for you? No, of course not. Or at least not for me. I'm not attracted to children, so that's not like there's any temptation there.
From what I hear, it's more like that (slightly different situation, of course, but in the ballpark of being like that).
Yeah, some times, a gay guy might joke around about how "hot" Brad Pitt is or a lesbian might drool a bit about some straight woman. But from what I hear, it's sort of like that whole gaydar thing - if there are no "gay vibes" coming from someone, there's not that much of a problem setting the straight group aside as "untouchable." They aren't interested in someone who's not interested in them, as a rule.
That's what I hear.
Now, of course, there ARE some more lusty gay and lesbian types out there. Folk who are turned on by anything that's breathing and the same gender. Of course, that's true for straight folk, too (except, of course, lusting for the opposite gender - but by my anecdotal estimations, the problem is largest with young straight guys, am I right?)
But we expect our doctors to be able to examine men or women without it being a problem - we expect professionalism from them. The same is true for our soldiers. We expect professionalism. And, if an individual soldier has a hard time being professional around whichever gender he or she is attracted to, then that's a problem that specific soldier has and they need to be weeded out, probably. Gay or straight.
But as long as our soldiers, like our doctors, can be professional about it and compartmentalize their sexual urges (and I see no reason why they can't, in general), then this is not going to be a problem.
Speaking as a non-gay person, that has been my impression. I have not seen anyone writing firsthand about the situation, but that's my impression, for what it's worth.
Anyone out there seen anyone writing/speaking with more firsthand knowledge on this topic?